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Long Distance Relationships

30 June 2009, 03:55 AM   #1
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Last edited by ‹.beautiful.by.nature.›, 3 December 2009
Taken From: Here 1. TRUST - This has GOT to be the number one thing in your relationship. You need to know that this person feels the same, and only wants you, and will not be unfaithful or a different person when you're not around. Don't waste your life worrying about what this person is doing away from you, that is NOT a relationship and no way to live. If you're freaking every time a text isn't returned in five minutes, your MySpace sent folder says the message is read without a response, or the phone is going straight to voice mail then there's no way this is going to work. Living lonely is better then living in fear. 2. The End of Distance - There has got to be an end to the madness. When you're dreaming of the day you'll be able to end the day with a little loving, a flick of the light, and a smooch goodnight, you have got to be able to see this. To know it's coming soon, not just a "maybe one day we'll be together" - because then what are you fighting for? A lifetime of loneliness? Might as well just grow old with your cats. 3. Do Whatever You Can - Don't make this an online only relationship, make sure you explore all aspects of what you can do apart. Maybe a can-never-be-missed phone call at the same time every week? A package in the mail once a month? A visit that won't be canceled once in a while? Flowers, postcards, greeting cards - don't leave the relationship online, make sure you're not just contacting each other via your IP address. 4. Learn The Outside AND In - Find out every aspect, not just their online persona or what they let you see. Learn their relationship with their mother, friends, siblings, exes... 5. BE PATIENT - If it's meant to be, it's meant to be.

3 July 2009, 06:44 PM   #2
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Handling The Absence One of the most difficult parts of a long distance or online relationship is handling the fact that you are not physically there with your partner. This lack of physical presence can make the whole relationship seem like an illusion. I am sure that almost every person in an LDR has wondered at some point about whether the relationship was actually real or just wishful thinking. With this in mind, it is very important to create a presence for yourself in your partner's life to provide a stable reality that you are a couple and that you are a part of one another. Listed below are some ideas and resources to help you achieve this. Communication 1. Don't fall out of touch, even for a short time Return all e-mails at the earliest opportunity If you are going out of town or are otherwise going to be unable to respond, let your partner know as soon as possible so they don't think something is wrong or start to have doubts. Keep all online dates. 2. Talk regularly through voice chat or via the telephone Your voice adds that touch of reality to the relationship and makes you more than just text on a screen 3. Video Chat if possible or at least send pictures regularly Can you imagine how differently you would feel if you could actually see your partner when you talk to them? You can bet that they would feel the same. Rather than having to imagine how you looked when you laughed or smiled, they could actually see it. It numbs any of those doubts you have about whether they will like the way you look. 4. Get to know as much as you can about each other Tell your partner about your day to day life, your friends, your relatives, your job etc. Make them feel like they are an integral part of your life. At the same time, find out as much as you can about them too 5. Be there when needed One of the worst mistakes you can make in any relationship is to not be there for your partner when they need you. This is especially true of a long distance relationship as there are already inherent doubts and this will just reinforce those doubts. Seek your partner's advice, listen to what they say and make them feel special and important to you. Love Love is the backbone of any relationship. As long as the other partner feels that you completely and unconditionally love them, those doubts will not have a chance to creep in. It is up to you to make sure they know exactly how you feel about them. Some ideas include: Reinforce your affection with poems, stories and love letters Send them care packages, postcards and gifts Create a personalized love craft and send it to them Presence Make sure you have a presence in your partner's life. Continually reinforce the fact that you are there, that this relationship is real and there is no way that you are going to let a little thing like distance get in your way. If you do the things listed above, you will create a good presence in your relationship.

3 July 2009, 07:21 PM   #3
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Is Long Distance Worth It? Any person worth having is worth waiting a few years for. If you both have something really special then take the plunge. You'd be surprised at how well a long distance relationship can work out. Granted, it won't be easy and you'll both go through your bouts of loneliness. However, the rewards for making it through are worth every lonely second. Just remember there are thousands of couples going through long distance relationships every day. There are thousands of resources available, many on this site, to help you both make it through and keep the relationship feeling alive and new. With the Internet you can both keep in contact through Internet phones, chats, instant messengers and more. The only thing stopping a long distance relationship from succeeding in these times is the relationship itself. If your relationship is rocky or isn't meant to pan out in the end, a long distance situation brings that to your attention quite quickly. This may be the reason so many people are hesitant to get involved in this type of relationship. However, if you are truly a match made in heaven, a few thousand miles can only make your relationship that much stronger in the long-term.

3 July 2009, 07:31 PM   #4
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Last edited by DoubleAction, 3 July 2009
38 Little Gifts You Can Mail Your Partner Want to cheer up your partner's day or give them a little token of your affection? Giving your long distance partner a sweet little nothing has never been so easy, or thrifty. For the perfect romantic pick me up, send one of these gift ideas. Small Gifts to Tuck Into An Envelope When you want to mail something quickly and avoid the post office consider one of these small tokens of affection that will fit perfectly into an envelope. Gift card to their favorite store Love poem Pictures of you Greeting card Movie, theater, sports, or concert tickets Necklace Love quotes Page from an erotic novel Pressed flower Magazine article you know they'd like 100 reasons why you love them Recipe for you both to cook on the same night Key (Tell them it's the key to your heart) Puzzle piece (because they complete you) Crossword or sudoku puzzle Romantic bookmark Small Packages Small frequent gifts show that you're constantly thinking about your partner, and they don't leave you with a huge post office receipt. Some of these gifts can also be sent in slightly larger padded envelope, saving you even more in postage fees. Small batch of cookies or brownies Candy Hugs & Kisses Small candle Small trial or sample perfumes/cologne Paperback book Framed picture of you Heart paperweight Small figurine Magazine Stuffed toy Silk rose Framed poem Book of love quotes Journal of your thoughts Blank journal Disposable camera to use and send back to you Playing cards with a reason you love them written on each Personalized pillowcase (use a permanent marker) DVD CD of your favorite songs Sexy undergarments Puzzle Tape with a message you recorded for them. Video of a typical day in your life.

3 July 2009, 07:37 PM    #5
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Romantic Messages Showing your feelings has never been easier since the advent of the text message. Anytime or anywhere you can instantly shoot off a message across the globe to the one you love, letting them know they are on your mind. Unfortunately, it isn't always easy coming up with witty romantic words of love. So, to help ease your burden, we've come up with a whole host of romantic messages that will set your love's heart atwitter with delight. Let these words not only touch your eyes, let them travel through your soul, and let them rest in your heart as you rest in mine…I love you. You're still the one… Words alone will never be able to express the depth of my love for you. In case you didn't know, I'll be loving you always and forever!! Just when I thought it couldn't get better, you prove me wrong! I love you! Falling in love with you was the easiest thing I've done in my life. Hand in hand and heart to heart my love for you shall never part. Even though we are apart, my love you will never part. I'll love the sun for days, the moon for nights, and YOU for forever. Loving you makes my heart explode with happiness. Rains fall, winds blow, the sun shines... it all comes naturally, just like loving you. Simply said... I love you... Being with you is like having every single one of my wishes come true. Loving you has been the best thing to ever happen to me! Just had to let you know... you're the best! I love you! There is no long distance about love; it always finds a way to bring hearts together, no matter how many miles are between them. You are the sun in my day, the wind in my sky, the waves in my ocean, and the beat in my heart. I wish I was there to hold you tight instead of just send this loving, "Good Night." Thank you for being the one who calms all my inner fears. Your love is all I'll ever need.

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