Joined: 22 Oct 2008
The following is an educated but non-expert exploration into the psychological and
personality meaning reflected in one�s choice in creation of a Kupika Character. I hope
that you have your grain of salt ready and that you find this educational if not
After studying this material, please take a moment to reflect upon your self and what is
said here and post in any replies whether the conclusions match/describe YOU thusly:
Doesn�t describe you (-1); Somewhat describes you (0); Describes you well (1)
(Note: In this study, I often use the terms �real-world� and �real-life� as we
commonly understand these to mean our offline existence. This is not to diminish the very
real effects and impact of online communication or existence in a virtual community
setting like Kupika.)
The creation of a Kupika Character is one of the first functions one performs upon joining
Kupika and ideally, in a fully anonymous environment, the Character is intended to
represent ourselves as we engage and communicate with others.
These insights assume a careful but not a calculated creating of one�s Kupika Character.
To the extent that a person gives at least some thought into what they find pleasing while
creating their character, the conclusions should match well.
In those cases, where a lot of deliberation is put into the creation and Character options
chosen, the resulting Character may represent more of a �wish fulfillment� and attempt
at Impression Management rather than reflecting a person�s true nature.
The degree to which one attempts to create a Character that resembles their
�real-world� self may reflect the amount of self-confidence and positive regard of
one�s real world appearance. Conversely, many may create a Character with differences
from their real-world appearance. While some of these differences may be merely no more
than cosmetic � a person that wears glasses in real life creates a Character without
them for example � others may signify a sizable dissatisfaction with one�s real-life
appearance. However, not too much weight should be placed upon this conclusion. Since
Kupika by its nature is a realm somewhat of fantasy and construction, it can be expected
that the tendency is to create a Character that is idealized and therefore more like what
we want to be rather than who we actually are. Yet, even though somewhat idealized, a lot
of insight into the person�s personality and psychologically can be had as discussed in
Opposite Gender Choice
A person who creates a character that has the opposite of their real life gender; signals
from the outset that they intend to fully embrace the fantasy aspects provided by the
environment. Such a person tends to be playful but extremely guarded about their true
personality. They may have large imaginations and enjoy engaging in verbal sparring as
well as possess a somewhat flirtatious nature online, yet be surprisingly shy and demure
in-person. Such a person, even while attempting to masquerade actually reveals some
delightful insights to their personality.
But note that an exception is a person who creates a Character the opposite of their real
life gender for the explicit purposes of exploring their sexuality, in some cases their
bisexuality, under safe and uncommitted circumstances. And still others use this kind of
Kupika account to deliberately mislead others into believing they are the specified gender
for reasons of their own, often nefarious. In these cases, the opposite gender choice and
overall Character traits can be dismissed as not reflective of the person�s true
personality and psychology.
Revision of one�s Character may reflect a personality that is in flux and thus
continuous change. This can be expected of many pre-teens and teenagers who are
consistently evolving with experience and maturation. Thus, occasional revision of one�s
Kupika Character will be normal for most members of a certain age. Most revisions made by
such persons will be minor changes to their character and again reflective of the gradual
changes and evolving of the underlying personality. A revision and resulting Character
that seems extremely different from the previous one may signal a desire to break from the
past and may mark an important milestone in the person�s life such as a graduation, a
birth in the family, a divorce, a relocation, a break-up with a long-time lover or some
other significant external event; or simply a committed desire to change themselves moving
A very frequent revision of one�s Character may indicate a person who is bored easily
and who often seeks out new stimulation and experiences. Such a person is likely on Kupika
for �entertainment� value and not likely to have a great many friends, though they may
be attractive to others as someone who seems fresh and interesting. A frequent reviser may
have an instable and turbulent home-life. They may also be a perfectionist or Type-A
personality and show some mild obsessive-compulsive behaviors. Some persons like this may
change their real-world appearance almost as often as they change their Kupika Character
and for many of the same reasons.
It stands to reason from the above, that relative permanence of Character is a reflection
of personality and psychological maturity. When such persons make a rare change to their
Character it is usually done with great deliberation. A few may also become well-known by
their Character and in such cases it may be the outside influence of their friends that
retards their desire to make revisions to their Character. But aside from these few
socially-pressured circumstances, most who choose to preserve their Kupika Character and
seldom make revisions to it are evidencing a strong self-identity, tend to be less
influenced by social norms and opinion, tend not to be faddish, and in general are
comfortable with who they are.
The vast majority of Kupika members will select a skin color approximating their
real-world skin tone and color. Even though discouraged in modern societies, skin color
still remains a common point of delineation among people and a strong factor in
self-identity, especially among some ethnicities. So there are no significant insights
when a person approximates their own skin color.
The interesting case occurs when a person chooses a different skin color from their
real-world self. Similar to the Opposite Gender Choice discussed previously, such a person
evinces that they are ready for a little �role-play� and intend on using their Kupika
identity to explore facets of their personality that they are not able to in real-life.
Such persons may be dissatisfied with their real-world social life and believe that they
will have greater success in taking on the skin of a different person. These persons tend
to be flirtatious and enjoy social-settings like parties and events. They may be
especially concerned with dating and creating a favorable impression with the opposite
Kupika�s Character options for facial features are not in my opinion greatly
distinctive. (This is probably due to the size of the character.) There are no choices of
eye color, facial hair, piercings or earrings. The choice seems to be between more or less
closed eyes and open eyes and between closed mouths and open mouths. Thus we can speak
only generally about what these choices may reflect in terms of personality and
The eyes classically are viewed as �windows to the soul� and in real-life are among
our most expressive features when observable. A person who opts for �open eyes�
manifests character traits of honesty, eagerness, friendliness, and may be overtly sexual.
Because their eyes are opened they are ready for action and are often impulsive. They are
social and action-oriented.
A �closed eyes� Character is one who is blind to the world. These persons may be less
trusting, suspicious of others, as well as have their own secrets that they do not want to
give away with their eyes. They tend to be more analytical and calculating, thinkers, and
deliberate in their actions. These persons are less apt to listen to authority figures and
prefer making mistakes for themselves rather than heeding the counsel of others. They
prefer quiet, cozy corners of parties or even desire only the company of a few or a single
lover. They are also content to be solitary but not always. They explore by touch and are
thus sensual but behind closed doors.
The mouth is our major means of communication normally. It is also a powerful center of
sensuality and sexual expression. A Kupika Character with an open mouth signals that the
person is ready for conversation, a talker, and intends to be friendly. It may also signal
a highly opinionated person. Sexually, the lips parting is the first signal of the desire
to be kissed (behind the flash in one�s eyes of the pupils dilating), thus open mouthed
Characters are looking for romance. Conversely, a choice of a closed mouth reflects a more
controlled personality, a person who may think before they speak. It may typify the
�lurker� or observer personality that prefers to let others be the life of a party.
The closed mouthed person still wants to have fun but on their terms and in situations of
their choosing. They are more controlling personalities and accept domination
understanding that it is the one who utters the �safe word� who is in actual control.
Closed mouth Characters may be passive-aggressive preferring to plot their revenge rather
than a direct argument or confrontation.
The Kupika Character choice for guys is again not very distinctive. There are a number of
similar messy or mopish hair styles available and one or two short-cropped styles. It is
easy to guess what sort of person may choose a crew cut or close cropped hair style
(conservative personality) over the longer styles available. (In the future, it would be
nice to have bald, dreadlocked or braided and possibly even �afro� as choices in
addition to a few other more distinctive hair styles.)
The choice for females is a bit more varied featuring not only long and short haired
choices but curly and straight, pig-tails and unbraided hair. Hair traditionally is a sign
of femininity and fertility but in modern times it tends to be more a reflection of
current fashion trends so I put little stock in the classic interpretations. And
attempting to derive any keen psychological insight from one�s Character hairstyle seems
overly difficult. More telling will be how often the person revises their Character�s
hair and the color they choose. (See Color discussion below.)
Tops, Bottoms and Footwear
The choices of tops and bottoms slide along the spectrum from casual to more formal for
both males and females.
Those few opting to be very revealing by wearing only underwear or swimwear are sending an
obvious signal that they want to play and have fun. They are ready to flirt, for sex, or
at least for a beach party. Whether this is actually reflective of their real-world
personality or whether they are only role-playing as such a type of person remains to be
discovered through communication with them.
Generally speaking, males dressing more casually are more open and flirtatious types. They
are less dandy and less concerned with fashion. If their Character is super casual,
wearing sandals and a tank top for example, they are probably promiscuous and free
wheeling. They may be a lot of fun for awhile but they are not long-term boyfriend
material. Conversely, those opting for the buttoned shirts or long-sleeves or more formal
wear (unless trying to recreate a specific real-world fashion) will be more conservative
in personality. They may also have aspects of their real-life that they are hiding. If the
Character is wearing the sweater option, the person is probably gay.
The choice again for females seems slightly more varied. The basic option between pants or
a dress seems to signify those girls who are reflecting more of their real-world dress
style (casual) and those who are deliberately projecting overt femininity. Characters in
short skirts show their legs and deliberately lead us to wonder about what is underneath
those few last remaining inches of fabric. There is a calculated unspoken statement of
�I am in control� in this situation and I permit you to look and get a little peek but
you will probably never get to see the rest.
The girl with a long-skirt is likewise showing off her femininity and the unspoken
understanding that access to sex can still be had but the tease is more muted. The girl is
saying not just anyone gets to see me. I am reserved for just my lover.
One interesting choice that females have is the Kimono. A person choosing this for their
character is likely embracing the anime-theme of Kupika and is likely a fan of manga and
anime. They may engage in real-life cosplay and have a whimsical personality.
The choice of the footwear for one�s Kupika Character is more likely to be a reflection
of fashion than personality. The cowboy or boot option for guys may reflect that cultural
identity and for girls (if she isn�t a cowgirl in real-life) high boots may signify an
awareness of her sexuality if not an actual high sex-drive.
The foot being closest to Mother Earth, a bare foot reflects being in touch with our
natural self and a concern for nature and thus one with a barefooted Character is probably
concerned about the environment and other eco-concerns. They may be vegetarian, vegan or
sympathetic. In some cases, the person with a bare-footed Character may be a rebel against
social convention. They along with sandal wearers may also be godly or spiritual.
The choice of a cloud covering the feet may reflect either self-righteousness if the cloud
is white (the person pictures themselves as angelic) or a troubled uncertainty about life
if the cloud is dark.
(Note: When editing or creating a Character only a portion of all available accessory
choices are populated. By refreshing the page, alternative choices for accessories will be
Because the head is considered the spiritual authority of a person, to place a covering
over it is to indicate a submission to a greater authority or at least recognition of
forces greater than ourselves. It may also signify that we outwardly acknowledge a
particular aspect of our personality.
The party hat, apple/archer, kitty band, panda hat, starry hat, cat hat, bear hat and
insect feeler are all choices reflecting a whimsical outgoing personality. The person
doesn�t take themselves too seriously and are likely to be jovial and fun-loving.
The choice of ribbon (feminine) or a cap (masculine) should be viewed as a reinforcement
of either of those coinciding personality aspects. Thus the guy wearing the cap is
reinforcing his machismo. The girl wearing a baseball cap is just sexy. The girl
wearing a ribbon in her hair is saying, �I�m not just a girl, I�m a princess.�
Persons choosing the mouse ears, headset, elven ears, fishing hat or flowery hat are weird
and they are making an unmistakable statement of difference.
The symbolic implications of a halo or devil horns is obvious to most. The person wearing
the horns is openly divulging that they have a wild and wicked side. Persons using the
halo may be slightly more ambiguous. The obvious meaning is a declaration to maintain
their personal integrity and to remain untainted, and perhaps they may be spiritual,
devotional, religious or generally good. But a few may opt for the halo in parody and be
saying with tongue-in-cheek that they actually have a mischievious nature but one which
doesn�t intend any real harm.
Because these appear on the head, this desire to be righteous or this admission that one
is sometimes sinful is a strong and important one to the person. The one wearing either a
halo or horns tells others that they must accept this important aspect of their
personality, that it comes along with the whole package of who they are.
There are two options for wings: the angel wings and the evil wings. Both are strong
statements about the personality of the member.
The use of the angel wings may indicate that the person considers themselves a
�messenger of God� and thus may be judgmental, quick to condemn others,
self-righteous, claiming to be humble but evincing a spirit of moral superiority. Such
persons may also be signaling their desire to be good, worthy of heaven, and someone who
doesn�t condone loose morals or practice them. Such persons accept authority and submit
to it as well as the whim of fate and heaven. They place their faith in such thing and
believe in a higher purpose in all things.
The use of the evil wings is a strong admission of the person�s darker evil side. They
admit they are a bad-boy or bad-girl and are not ashamed of possessing these sinister
traits. As fallen angels they may have a surprising spiritual dimension but one which is
cynical and questioning. They tend to rebel against authority and adopt a self-determinist
Wings symbolize superhuman ability, swiftness and power. Use of either the angel or evil
wings may thus signify that the person sees themselves as a helper, a guardian, a
protector and hero. Others may find them to be generous, helpful and caring.
An interesting combination can be had when one creates a character which mixes the angel
wings with the devil horns or the halo with the evil wings. In such cases, the person is
indicating that they have both good and evil sides. While they may signify the side of
their personality they feel is more dominant with the choice of either halo or devil
horns, others will find the actual more dominant side to be the choice of wings.
Hand-held and Other Items
Most people choosing the kitty are probably actual cat-owners in real-life. If they are a
girl, the use of a side-cat of any color other than black is probably a touch signifying
they are still holding onto their childhood or youth. It may also indicate a very playful
and flirtatios personality. If it is a black cat then they may be spiritual, open to
magic, and persons who are somewhat superstitious believing the black cat to be either a
symbol for good or bad depending upon their culture. If the character happens to be male,
the cat will likely be black and thus definitely signifying that the person sees himself
as a magi.
Holding a teddy-bear can be reflective of a desire for childhood, but it is most likely a
�false projection� on the part of the person wanting to give the appearance that they
are still clinging to innocence. In reality however, they are no longer na�ve and they
are fully aware of that fact.
Holding a book signifies a studious person of course, the book-worm, and all the usual
associations that accompany such a stereotype.
Holding a flower signifies an appreciation of romance and natural beauty. Such a person
wants romance and responds to the gentle approach, not the hard come-on. They may also
escape in dream, stories and fairytales (which on Kupika may mean an avid reader of
If the girl�s Character is holding a handbag, it most likely indicates that she is
materialistic to an extent. She is ready to go shopping and is also a person that is
concerned with her appearance and fashion. Likewise, the necklace options would signify
much of the same thing.
PART 2 continues: