a Hypothetical question

k lets say that you fell in love with someone on Kupika and you were REALLY REALLY REALLY
in love....and you even became "bf/gf"...

so my compound question for you peeps is:

If you broke up with this person, 

1) would you feel like you needed to leave Kupika or would you?

2) do you think both persons should go or only one and if so which one? the one who joined
kupika last? or should something like if one person cheated or something like that
decide?

3) or do you think that its completely easy to just co-exist on Kupika like nothing
happened? (im sure a lot of individual factors involved there)

ok discuss....

i have some thoughts about it but i will keep them to myself for now..

1) i wouldn't feel the need to leave kupika, and i wouldn't.
to explain, i'm going to use another hypothetical situation:

say you're in high school. you break up with someone that you really loved. do you
transfer to another school? most likely not.
2) i don't think either person should leave..
3) yeah, i think i explained that in the above answer.

so that's my opinion. hope it helped. i tried. :]

i get your point but  the high school situation is very different because of all the
barriers to leaving you are forced to continue going there. you can't just transfer
easily. usually theres a lot of "cost" involved even if there is another school to
transfer to which isn't always the case especially in small towns or if private school
alternatives are not affordable for the person..

and also in real life its sort of expected that as teens you are going to make bf/gfs and
have break-ups..its practicallly required extra-curricular activity  for teens...

with Kupika on the other hand one person could just delete there acct in a minute and go
find another place for pen-pals or chatting... the barriers to exiting are minimal...

but yeah..i guess i am more looking to see how others feel about it on an emotional
level..

In a sense, I may feel like leaving for a while. However, I personally believe the two
would be perfectly capable of remaining on the site, given a certain set of factors
were....obtained, for lack of a better word.

For example, if the break up hadn't caused rifts and the pair remained on terms with one
another (the matter of how close they were post break up isn't that relevant) they should
still be able to both remain on the site as neither would theoretically be going out of
their way to harm the other, which would be reason enough for one to leave.

Another point would be the group of friends they moved in. If they both had their own
friends, then it may still work to remain on site as they shouldn't 'cross paths' that
often, nor hear any upsetting news about the other (be it rumours or truthful tales). This
would mean the potential harm the once couple could face would be minimal, another good
example for a reason for both to remain on site. However, if the pair had the same or
similar set of friends, it could be veeeery bad, especially if one of the former couple
had reason to seek revenge against the other. It isn't nice when your friends turn on you
just because someone else says so...

From my point of view, if it happened to me, I'd remain on the site and not expect the
other to leave; that's their decision. The thing is, if they had cheated on me...........
I doubt I'd leave even then. I'd ensure I left their circle, make a 'clean break' as it
were, and start moving amongst my own group of friends again. That could mean losing
several friends but I guess I'd justify the losses as 'damage control', but I'd probably
still keep one or two that I feel wouldn't be manipulated by the other into trying to
upset me. 

Eh, I hope that helps in some sense.

very thoughtful and insightful comments LunaSakura i appreciate them

Well I feel that if the girl cheated she shoiuld not leave kupika and so forth for the
boy but 
I think they do need their space . You can co-exist with that person on kupika no 1 should
leave and there will still be feeling there but its over move on

mo,
dont leave..you could find someone else on kupika
that u may fall in love with or somthing...

orborus21 i dont get this you went out with kelsey and you were young and plus teens
arent ready because 16 year old girls end up having babys like brezzy =/

huh? i never went out with Kelsey....maybe in her imagination.. i was only and always
jsut a freind to her..

and what are u talking about this is a hypo queston it doesnt' have anything nto do with
me.

and finally what he heck are u bringin gup brezzy for? her situation is totally her own
deal and her guy was someone her own age or whatever..why would u compare what i do to a
situation that is totally different....although yes i agree with you that most teens
should not be having sex..

but i dont' know what you are talking about there as far as me....im not having any sex
with anyone at the moment ...

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i think 30 is best cos there is no point leaving, as u hav friends etc., and u dont need
to speak to him/her and u still might remain friends. also if one of them cheated it is up
2 them to make the decision and it is very easy to co-exist. if u r really depressed or
annoyed, u probs should leave to avoid more upset or conflict.
okay, that sounds weird...