Sunday, 11 September 2011
12:08:27 AM (GMT)
I have a friend who attends a performing arts high school. She's in the drama
program, which performs about four plays a year and always has the students very busy
and involved. Their drama teacher is also their director, which obviously entails a
few things that might be considered somewhat overstepping boundaries, but it has to
be that way. For example, he e-mails them schedules, changes, etc. to their personal
We have been debating something else recently, though- he seems to have befriended
some of the students. For example, he was sending them personal texts over summer
vacation that have nothing to do with school or drama, and often hangs out with their
parents while the student is present.
To me, this is a huge issue. Her excuse is always that he's her director and,
because she dreams of being a Broadway star, he has her career in her hands. As
such, apparently, this constitutes special circumstances. She tells me I'm jealous
because I do have a sort of parallel situation going on at my school (NOT as personal
as their relationship) and I wish I had the privileges she has. For one, she's
wrong; I'm not jealous because I honestly find it creepy.
Secondly, let me explain what she's talking about: English is my passion, no hands
down, has been since I was about six. As with most students, the first real
experience I had with literature was in grade nine, and it genuinely moved me and
changed me, both as a person and a writer. Needless to say, that teacher has come to
mean a lot to me, but only as a teacher. We talk a lot but we aren't friends,
and he certainly doesn't e-mail me or TEXT ME. Oh my goodness, the idea of getting a
text from him is so ridiculous... my mother would lose her mind.
What's even creepier is that her parents fully approve of it, and whenever I try to
casually bring up the fact that I, along with everyone else we know, feels it's
innaproppriate, they try and shut me up. They are just rolling in the deep with this
shit because they think this man is going to make their daughter a star. This, of
course, is in stark contrast to my own mother question why my history teacher called
me "hun" once, or why my English teacher walks away whenever she shows up.
In my opinion, the relationship between my friend and her teacher is a failure on the
part of the students, the parents, and of course the teacher. Student-teacher laws
are so strict these days; a teacher isn't even allowed to be alone in a classroom
with a kid! Whenever the aforementioned English teacher and I are talking after
class, he makes sure we step out onto the porch (he's in a portable, not a classroom)
so that everyone can see that our actions are innocent. If a teacher is texting his
students and going on daytrips with their families, and one of those students made up
a lie about him being innaproppriate with her, there'd but no way he could deny it.
What are your opinions on this? Am I just being hyperparanoid (I suppose I would
have reason to be; I'll explain if anyone asks), or is this really an issue?
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