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Thursday, 15 November 2007
05:05:24 PM (GMT)
My best friend Diane needs help. As I am her best friend I need your advice to give her advice. Ever since her parents split and her brother died a year ago she hasn't been the same Diane I've known most of my life. Her parents split for other reasons and her brother died in a car crash, for drink driving. It all started when She hit smoking, which was bad. I told her to stop, but it didn't work. She used to come to school somedays stoned out of her head. But as our school is a crappy school, they never done anything about it, they knew something was up She then hit the drinking, she used to come home to my house at midnight or later and knok at my house with a guy she met every night, I really don't want to know what they used to get up to, ever. She was homeless for a while, not returing home and insisting that only if her parents remarried she wouldgo back. My parents divorced when I was 13. I think as I'm a stronger person I carried on in life. I don't think Diane has done this. Apart from smoking,drinking and being homeless, she met the "wrong" crowd of people. They were much older and scarier and once when I hung out with her out of school they were passing round weed and joints to each other. These people must of been about 20 ir even older. I was scared about this. Diane is my friend. I can't let he waste her life away. I'm too scared to stand up for myself and talk to the people she knows, or even Diane now. I always used to e the bossy one out of us two but now she just controls me. We don't talk as much as we used to , I've spoken to her mum, shes a fragile woman and very worried for her child out there. She is telling me to tell Diane to come home. But I feel like I'm in the middle of it all the time. I wouldn't of posted this diary until yesterday, she told me she was pregnant. At 15 yrs old pregant. Shes failing miserable at her exams, she used to be the brighter one out of us 2. I'm scared, what with all the drugs and drinking, especially all for her baby. I've tried telling her but she just won't listen. She also bullies people, not only one victim. i wouldnt say shes a bully, shes just someone that you would be scared of if yo don't say the righ thing. At the moment her life is a mess, her mum is crying every night. I just want to make peace I hope this diary entry has made people aware about this. Its a sad situation that you should never to be in. I just want the old Diane back, the happy smiling Diane who always used to be nice to people, flattering them all the time. That was the Diane I used to know,
Last edited: 15 November 2007

Italics whispers:   15 November 2007   546153  
I'm so sorry for you and your friend. 

I don't think I can give you very much helpful advice, but I'll try.

Try to support Diane as much as you can, and make suggestions rather
than telling her things. Tell her that you're always there for her and
stuff like that. Maybe tell her you're not too keen on her new
friends. And it sounds you can talk her mum, especially if you feel
you are put in an uncomfortable situation. Don't do anything you don't
want to do.

Blah, that's the best I can come up with. -.- I hope everything works
out okay.
Frizzette says:   15 November 2007   375521  
Yeah, support her, she needs it, and the baby
Lilrockin2 says:   15 November 2007   793819  
tell someone. they'll be able to help
Lyncheh says:   15 November 2007   796545  
It really sounds like you've done almost all you can. It sounds like
she'll need some professional help maybe.

If she won't change for a baby, I'm not sure anything else is going to
help. Sorry, I'm not good at advice. o_x
Oroborus21 says:   15 November 2007   943136  
let her know you are there for her, its possible that she wants to
change for the better and maybe even go home, but she has to feel like
it will be better, and also there are strong attractions in that
outside scene that will be difficult to overcome, those have to be
replaced with BETTER reasons to return home, to school and such....

All you can do is try and talk with her. Offer to buy her lunch
someplace so you can sit down just with her for an hour or more. Then
just talk to her. Talk about all of the good times you had inthe past
and bring up funny things and stuff yall did. Get her to long for that
time again without being forceful.

Then come around to the point of you missing her, caring about her,
being worried about her and what her mom is goign through and says,
taht she (her mom) WILL acccept her back home.

Getting her HOME is the first priority, and school next.  After that,
if she can stay home and in school she and you as her friend can help
her work through the other things.

keep us updated aboutyour friend if you can...

but listen, ultimately you can only make an effort like this.
ultimately she has to live with her own choices and the consequences
of those choices. it sucks sometimes, but sometimes we have to sadly
say goodbye to former friends who have gone down some bad paths in
life. you cant let her drag you down in any way.

but you can try, at least you will feel like you tried, if you did. so
go for it and be brave. she needs someone with courage around her.
just do it all i a gentle loving way and you'll be ok.
NicoleNIGHTMARE says :   15 November 2007   985217  
Thanks Eddie and everyone. I will keep you all up to date. Tomorrow at school I'll invite her for lunch (that is if sheturns up to school) and like eddie said, we can chat about this


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