Thursday, 20 October 2011
08:54:37 PM (GMT)
Lately my bestfriend's been having problems with her self-esteem and it annoys me in
a way. I truly believe she's pretty and I tell her that, as well as our friends. She
thinks she's fat and ugly and actually gets depressed at this and I always end up
having to reassure her that it's untrue but she just replies to me as if she doesn't
believe a word of it and it doesn't matter.
I know she doesn't because I'm her bestfriend, and obviously a bestfriend would say
anything to make their friend happy. I can tell her I'm being honest as much as I
want and I know she really won't believe it. At first it worried me, and then annoyed
me. I don't know why I get annoyed but I know that sometimes I wanna just walk away
from her because of how much she brings up how much she hates how she looks. It's a
terrible thing for a friend to do and instead I explained to her one night that what
I say, or anybody says, isn't gonna help until she thinks her own self is beautiful.
If we stress ourselves to meet society's standard's of "beautiful, hot, sexy,
attractive, etc" we'll end up wasting time and money. If you can't accept how you
look then why ask people whether they think you're pretty or not? what difference
will it make if you don't like how you look to begin with it? Of course if someone
says you look good it can change your opinion but in some cases relying on that is
just plain stupid. Everyone has a different view and a different opinion so why care?
Once you see your own self as beautiful then no one else's opinion matter because
you're really the most important person in your life. It's better to accept how you
look and not care on anyone else's viewpoint than constantly change how you look just
to get enough people to compliment you than insult you.
I wish my bestfriend would believe it because I love and care about her, but her low
self-esteem makes me so angry because she downs herself all the time and even when
other people tell her she's just fine, she denies it.