Sunday, 30 December 2007
10:53:53 AM (GMT)
The Top 10 Reasons Why Teenage Relationships Fail...
Written by Fabby.
Okay, so being fifteen and watching a good number of high school relationships I've
seen many fatal flaws repeated over and over. Even so, nobody but me and a select few
other sane people have realized it and try to avoid it. So here I have compiled for
your viewing pleasure the 10 reasons why I most commonly see a relationship fall to
pieces. How many have you fallen curse to?
1. Because they're so damn superficial!
To be fair, everyone is affected by looks to some degree. It's biology's way of
trying to get us to make babies with the most desirable mate possible (hence good
babies). Unfortunately, many teenagers have the attitude of "I will only date him if
Several problems with this. First of all, they pass up all the good guys/girls that
would make them happy simply because they're under average or even average in looks.
Secondly, the hot people are shallow (it's a stereotype, I know, but it's so often
true) and if you date someone shallow... well, it just won't work, probably for one
of the reasons below. Lastly, if you date someone only because they're hot, you'll
get bored of them within three days because you don't really like them. You just want
them as a trophy wife. (Figuratively.) Broaden your horizons!
2. Because they expect "the one" to come along on the first try.
It's quite a fatal mistake, really, to think that the one you're going to marry is
going to come along when you're 12 and have just started dating. No, these people are
not the one for you. Of course, thinking that this person is the one... well, it
leads to a lot of complications. Like realizing that you can't stand to be with this
person forever and breaking up with them even though you still like them and want to
be with them but you have "no future". Honestly, when you're this young, you won't
have a future. You don't necessarily have to have a long future with someone to have
some fun and enjoy yourself dating them. Really, how do you expect to find the person
who you want to be with forever when you don't even know what you want in a partner
3. Because they completely lack verbal communication skills.
My god. This is one of the easiest things to fix, yet it destroys A LOT of fucking
relationships. Basically what happens is partner A doesn't like something about
partner B but never mentions it for whatever silly reasons and lets it get to them
until they break up. NOW HOW STUPID IS THAT?! You could simply tell the person that
you don't like X thing about them. You have a good relationship and ruin it over
something silly. e_e'' Just tell them. They might be willing to.. -gasp-..
4. Because they expect their new boyfriend/girlfriend to be absolutely
Even sillier than breaking up with someone over something you won't mention is
breaking up with someone because of some small habit. Many teenagers simply do not
understand that there ARE NO perfect people out there. Everyone is going to have
something that they do that will piss you off. What love is (okay, at least one
aspect of it) is accepting the person's flaws and loving them unconditionally
5. Because they fall in love too quickly.
Alright... most of us will fall victim to it at some point. We'll think that we
totally love our new "it" person when in fact we're just infatuated. Frankly, this
isn't really anyone's fault as it's hard to distinguish what love is until you've
really felt it. Unfortunately, teenagers also seem to think that EVERY relationship
they have is love and they get real disappointed when they find out... hmm, it was
only puppy love, the infatuation that they feel at the beginning of a relationship.
Once that fades, they think they're over the person and walk away. What it really is
is the start of a real attachment, but we can't have that. Once that initial spark
fades, the fog that hung over them fades and they see everything clearly; that the
person they've been fucking has FLAWS. They can't deal with it and flee.
6. Because they want to take the good and leave the bad.
Don't expect your "lover" to have every quality you love. Chances are, they won't.
Don't expect them to lack every quality you hate. Don't expect some sort of god;
expect a person with good attributes and bad. Embrace both of them, even if the bad
gets to you. Of course, no one can do that, and they break up with their significant
other because they chew with their mouth open... even though said significant other
treated that person like royalty. You cannot pick and choose what things you like in
a person. You have to accept all of them. This means seeing the bad in someone and
loving it and understanding it and dealing with it. But our favorite little
teenagers... well, they simply want perfection. A ready-made relationship.
7. Because they have no conflict resolution skills, either.
A fight? OH NO! WHAT DO WE DO!? Why, we work it out like normal people do. It's
pretty easy to back out and quit seeing the person just because something bad
happens, but then you never get anywhere. Teenagers never seem to learn this, either.
They run across a conflict and try to avoid it instead of saving the relationship.
I'd say this is one of the most immature things you can do. This one really only
affects the younger relationships.
8. Because they're selfish little brats.
Teenagers want everything their way right then and there. They can't build a bond
like love because they're not willing to give enough. Love is complete and total
selflessness, to want someone's happiness so far above your own that you would
sacrifice anything for them. Teenagers are too selfish to do this, and as such they
can't give enough. They only take from the other person. This means no real bond will
be formed, and... KA-BLAM! No bond, no relationship. End of story.
9. Because thy want a movie romance.
They want to fall in love with the perfect guy in the perfect way with the perfect
kiss and have their own happily ever after. It seems like our teenage girls have been
brainwashed with romance novels and chick flicks and no longer understand the most
fundamental concepts of a relationship while searching for perfection. They think
that true love is effortless. Relationships do take some work to maintain. There will
be fights and rough patches. It's not all peaches and cream, but nobody remembers
that part. They don't want to work. They already worked, their mommy made them do the
dishes because they fired the maid. -_-''
10. Because THEY'RE IDIOTS!
Teenagers are just not ready to handle a commitment! They're unstable, they have no
idea who they are. Their ideals and values and what they want changes more often than
their hair colors. As such, they demand too much and then change their demands on a
whim. With each new demand, their current partner will not fit so they must find a
new one. Really, teenagers are just too immature to deal with a relationship. e_e''
So there you have it, folks. Feel free to repost this if you want, but please leave
my name on it. You won't die if you don't, nor will anyone will you know and your
love life won't be affected in any way. I just want people to see this, I put a bit
of effort into it! XD
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