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|Cheating: Sexual and Emotional||Category: (general)|
Friday, 13 April 2007
10:43:38 AM (GMT)
A lot of people (even those I'd consider freethinkers) seem to hold the view that it
is very wrong to have sex/whatever with someone whilst you are in a romantic
relationship with someone else. If you are one of those people, take a moment to ask
A few things to establish here:
For the purposes of this entry, I define sex as any sexual act.
'True' relationships are about emotion.
Sex can be just an act. It does not have to have emotional ties.
That last point, a few of you may disagree on. Let's have a bit of a thought
Would you consider masturbation whilst in a relationship unfaithful? I'm guessing
What about the use of a gloryhole? Is this
Finally, what if it was not a real person on the other side. But in fact apparatus
designed to simulate exactly what that person would do? Or maybe if someone else was
controlling the apparatus?
I think you'll begin to realise that the aspect which bothers you is the fact that
there is another person there. Some of you may be one step ahead and realise that it
is the emotional ties which bother you.
In a relationship with someone, I would not have sex with anyone else. This is a
personal choice, as it feels bad for me to do it. I would, however, have no problem
with my partner having sex with other people (as long as they're careful about
diseases, and they don't deceive me). However, and we move onto the second part of
this title, emotional cheating is a different matter.
It's also harder to describe. I guess it would be someone in a romantic relationship
experiencing romantic feelings for someone else? It's more complex than that though.
Of course, it's not morally wrong, but it's something that is easily grounds for the
dissolution of a relationship (though even then maybe not).
I have run out of writing steam. End Post.
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