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Thursday, 5 February 2015
03:31:15 PM (GMT)
Wanna know the BDSM mantra? Safe, sane, consensual.
So let me explain why this book was devoid of all three of these things.

Safe - In the first few chapters of the novel, Christian Grey tracks Ana’s cell
phone to find her at a club. Takes her home when she’s drunk, changes her when
she’s so intoxicated she doesn’t remember him doing so,and informs her he will be
keeping tabs on her for her own benefit. This is not the behaviour of a respectable
Dominant. This is the behaviour of a power hungry, abusive asshole who really can’t
take no for an answer.

Sane - One of the most important parts of BDSM is aftercare. Scenes can be extremely
traumatizing and intense for the submissive. Aftercare is anything from petting to
cuddling to holding to sweet talking, whatever degree of gentleness a bottom would
need to pull them out of “subspace”. How does Christian provide aftercare? He
submits Ana to a traumatizing first time spanking experience AND THEN FUCKING LEAVES.
fucking know better! That, again, is not the act of a responsible Dominant. It’s
the act of a selfish abuser.

Consensual - Did I mention he undressed her when she was belligerently drunk? Tracked
her phone to locate her? He also buys her a new car despite her saying no countless
times. Now, consent is important for any kind of sexual activity at all. Consent
means informed, consent means enthusiastic. Informed, enthusiastic consent. This is
crucial in a BDSM setting. Scenes can be extremely intense, especially for the
bottom. What is Christian’s form of obtaining consent? Handing Ana a fucking
contract highlighting all the things he wants to do her asshole and asking her to
sign it. She was a virgin (Don’t even get me fucking started.) who had never before
been exposed to BDSM. Entering in that kind of relationship takes a gargantuan amount
of trust and knowledge so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Not reading a
list of kinks on a piece of paper and signing your rights to say no away. Christian
didn’t offer her resources, he didn’t offer her information. He gave her an
ultimatum. That is not the sort of consent a responsible Dom/me would seek from their
Fuck. This. book. It’s written in a shitty way, it’s a terrible example of a BDSM
relationship (ask anybody already involved in the lifestyle and watch them go blue in
the face just thinking about it), which is already faced with enough prejudice and
misunderstand, and it romanticizes and glorifies abuse.

‹Hella› says:   5 February 2015   202537  
This book seems awesome. I want to read it so bad, which I will be
doing soon.

The author I believe was intelligent enough to know that this book
would have supporters and agreement with what she wrote, and then
those who highly disagree with the book, yet continue to read because
of how INTRUIGING it is. Am I right? I mean, if you didn't read it..
You would have comulated so much thought and disagreement in it.
Debates are fun, right? And you kept reading it. It's enjoyable to
read something that's wrong... and it's enjoyable to preach about how
it's wrong. 

So, did you enjoy reading it? c: did you enjoy creating reasons why
it's wrong. Because I can tell that you do...
You constantly write about! And I love your feed back/summaries! It's
interesting, and it makes me want to read the book even more.
‹Hella› says:   5 February 2015   459237  
wouldn't have comulated*
‹Hella› says:   5 February 2015   909595  
I also love your writing in general, Emma. I believe if you made some
sort of blog for more outside viewers... Or SOMETHING greater than
kupika. You would have a lot of followers. Both negative/positive
feedback. You really have talent (: and I love reading what you put

You do have an agenda though, right? You mainly write about bdsm,
domination, abusive/healthy relationships both sexual and non sexual
in a sense. 

Continue with that!! Please.

Maybe one day you can write a book about your experience in that
world, the knowledge you have on it, and give advice while doing so!
Which you already happen to be doing. c: 

You already have one fan (me duh nigga(; )
‹Lifeless Baby› says:   5 February 2015   448697  
Awe, Thanks Erykah <3
Honestly, this is what a friend told me since I fear that reading the
book would trigger me. I'm not saying that everyone is reading it for
that reason, I'm just showing how things aren't always what they seem.

I love writing. I want to get a Major in English & do something with
it. It's a way of just letting it all out, ya know? 
‹Hella› says:   5 February 2015   725886  
Dude... That's perfect. I honestly believe that you would make great
succes. Sometimes pouring yourself out in ways which you're good at
it, can bring a lot of great things! The best part is the fact that
you're so young, and already so wise and talented with something that
most people you rage and even 2 times older aren't! So keep going at
it! Seriously.. Great things can happen.

‹♥Vampiric Love♥› says:   5 February 2015   239008  
Not to mention it's literally a poorly written erotic Twilight fanfic
omnipotent says:   11 February 2015   897344  
this makes me happy.
‹Lifeless Baby› says:   11 February 2015   113329  
Thank you ^.^ 
omnipotent says:   13 February 2015   248014  
i've had the misfortune of reading it. it's not a bdsm relationship; it's an abusive one. listening to everyone squeal about it is getting annoying. >/< @RussianGypsy
‹Lifeless Baby› says :   13 February 2015   123851  
I know. Whenever I'm on Tumblr and something about NOT seeing 50
shades or anything pops up, I always reblog it. My fave singer
actually is selling shirts that say Fuck Christian Grey bc he knows
the right way of doing it and hates the books 

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