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Monday, 20 August 2012
04:20:40 PM (GMT)
For starters, I'd like to say that I love my boyfriend with all of my might.

But, just recently, (two days ago) he asked me if we could take a break from seeing
each other. 
Not break up. 
Not see other people. 
Just, to not see each other for a while.

I personally believe this is a horrible idea. I'm having such a great time. But, his
mom has gotten him convinced to where if we are around each other for too long, we
will start to get annoyed at each other, and fight a lot more.

I am not annoyed.
I am not angry.

I'm hurt, and shocked that he would try to stay away from me.

But, here's the kicker.
MY BEST FRIEND, Taylor, and his best friend Adam are dating. And they were over
Our three months is tomorrow. And I'm getting him an autographed Red Hot Chili
Peppers poster, (his favorite band.)
He told me he feels bad because I provide more to him than he does for me.
I cook and clean for him.
I buy him things.
I give him whatever he wants.
He's like a little kid.

But he wants a break.
Make sense? 
Didn't think so.
Help please.

Sunnylasse says:   20 August 2012   339935  
You ad obviously to good for him but Ik your in love just tell him
how you feel and if it's true love it will work out ^w^ -hugs- I hope
it works out
CyberSexStories says:   20 August 2012   338294  
Personally, trying to give you a mature answer and not be bias. I'm a
very demanding woman and I get upset very easily. It seems to me
you're a little passive and would be a good housewife. However, if he
can't appreciate you and be willing to provide the same care as you do
him, then he doesn't deserve you. You might love him, but it doesn't
seem as if he loves you more. A relationship is a partnership where
you give 50/50 and if that isn't met, then it simply cannot work.
There are other possibilities as well. Such as:

1. Maybe he wants to take a break, since your three months is
tomorrow, because he's planning to surprise you. 

2.  Maybe he does, in fact, want to take a break from seeing you, but
you have the rest of time to do that. 

You need to tell him that this is bothering you and that communication
is key. Ask him how he really feels. Maybe he just isn't as in to you
as you think he is. If he's willing to take a break so early in the
relationship then he's willing to break up in the future.

Though, if you are seeing each other every day, it can get tiresome,
so maybe a break will help. Try texting a little bit, seeing each
other every couple of days. Have your space and DON'T be clingy! Some
guys like it, some don't. It all depends.

Finally, just let him know you respect his decision but also give him
your opinion about it. Tell him there's nothing to be afraid of. If
you get annoyed with each other, okay, it happens, but if you truly
love each other, you'll get through it.

It's really simple. 
In my opinion though, if his mother said that, I would take it in
offense and probably break up with him. I don't want a mother-in-law
from hell trying to break up anything. You just don't need that kind
of stress.

Besides, you're young! You have years to find the right guy and maybe
this is a sign that he's not the one for you.
‹›jonia jules‹› says:   20 August 2012   322607  
Thank you so much. This helped a lot.. 
‹Zatten got bitch slaped by l3al3yl3aCkRiBs› says :   20 August 2012   856068  

Woah...some good advice right there. 


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