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Sorry, let me explain my rudenessCategory: (general)
Tuesday, 3 April 2007
02:45:53 PM (GMT)
To all the people I have been rude to: let me apologize and explain my situation
right now.

The Past

I was studying in university and I had lots of free time. I can do anything I want,
without any burdens, I was simply enjoying life. I could add some features to Kupika
and read all your mails (even though I didn't reply to them all). And most
importantly, I wasn't thinking about my future. My thought at that time was: whatever
will be, will be.

I was living a carefree life.

The Present

Now I have graduated and am working in a full-time job. Basically I create computer
software. This requires a great deal of "mental processing power". I am exhausted, my
energy is drained on my workplace. And the most frustrating thing is: I realize my
current job can only last for a short time. The pay is small. And it is very, very
hard to get rich if you don't own your own company. But I don't feel I am ready yet
to start my own company.

So, I am worried about my future. Really worried. What will I become? The world is
getting more capitalistic; just face it -- we cannot live a decent life without a
decent amount of money. The riches are getting richer because they have the capital.
Well, this is really frustrating.

With those problems, I beg you to understand why I cannot add games, why I cannot be
"your friend", etc etc etc. I am stressed out. If you are very young, maybe you don't
understand why I am feeling this way, but I hope some of you who are more mature
will. It is my future! So, please accept my apology for being rude to you. It is
nothing personal.

The Future

I don't know, I will try my best to be the best person I can best become.
But we will see.


Do not ask for games.
It won't happen in the near future.

Do not ask me to kick some member just because he/she is being rude to you.
Grow up, kids! Just ignore the person and save your energy.

Do not ask me to add you to my Friends List
Do not ask me to become your friend
It really is nothing personal. Well, I don't even know who you are! In Kupika we are
just nicknames. I am so very busy with my real life (and virtual life), so I cannot
become everyone's friend. To me, the written word friend has a different
meaning than acquaintance. You don't ask someone to become his friend; you
just do. I mean, you don't need to confirm that we are friends. If we talk with
each other, if I know something about you and you know something about me, if we
understand each other, then you are automatically my friend. No need to ask about
that. That's why, when a complete stranger asks me to become his/her friend, I can
only say: "uh, hello..."

Let me close this diary entry by expressing my gratitude to all of you, Kupika
members, who have been here through so many things. We have had problems,
disagreements, conflicts, etc. in the past. And I am sure the problems won't stop
here. But we also have lots of FUN! Thanks to you, we still  exist, are still intact,
with a nice little community that is growing. Let's see what we will become in the

Thank You for Reading!

lonely says:   3 April 2007   488746  
thats cool
‹Push the Button› says:   3 April 2007   872524  
awww poor hina-san

Although I don't have any advice for you about this because I'm only
darkness_pal8 says:   3 April 2007   469781  
yeh!!That was cool!!
Naive says:   3 April 2007   267941  
*pats Hina-san on the back*  Didn't know you've had such a problem
Don't worry about the games. We don't need em ^^ (plus, this is a
penpal site after all)

Ah, I agree to the friend part. O___< Mostly I just reply an 'uh sure'
to them. ^^ They leave me afterwards anyway. 

=D Hope everything turns better and better even though all I can do is
cheer you on and help a little (1%) ^^;

I should be thanking you too for making Kupika, it's my favorite site!
*dances* =D
‹SparklePuff_♥› says:   3 April 2007   538433  
it is ok hina *pats hina on the back* like navie said do not worry

the games  you rock i am glad you came up with this site!
beautifulontheinside says:   3 April 2007   895661  
I know a little about how you feel. I'm 13 and already worried about
my future. I agree with everything there. I don't think games would
have been  good. They make sites cheesy. I can go anywhere to play
games. Kupika is unique.

Thanks for Kupika just the way it is!
LEO47 says:   3 April 2007   472169  
ok i guess so
x_dopeshow says:   3 April 2007   944678  
I hardly know you,
but best wishes and good luck for you.
May it all work out.
‹<3OurGODisLOVE!!<3› says:   3 April 2007   747865  
i like it but some of us just want tpo be your friend this is what
kupika is all about its about making friends thats why most ppl ask u!
Reisha says:   3 April 2007   841488  
Awwwww, poor you ;___; you work so hard!!1 ;---; it makes me feel bad
fer complaining about my life when I barely have anything to worry
about xDD;;

Dun stressss :O stressing's no fun! ;---; 
And if theres anything you need help wiff, just be sure to ask us :D
well be glad to help :]

Aw, we dun need games anyways xDDD 
Games are kinda boring, actually :3

Kyaaa~~~! and thankies fer kupika!! :DD its my favorite site and its
here that I met the most aweshomest people and get to be me and not be
judged :D THANKIES SO MUCH!! *glomps* :DD without kupika, Id prolly
still be afraid to be me in the real world. ;___; so thankies so
much!! ^_________^

Good luck wiff everything~ :D we'll be here cheering you on~ ^____^
Rek says:   4 April 2007   462659  
Thats true about the friend thing and it's good to know what your
goals are.
beautifulontheinside says:   4 April 2007   819433  
I'm going to give my best shot at some advice. Don't overstress
yourself with anything "what if". Life is too short to worry about
tiny things. And I've learned that if it was meant to happen, it will.
My brother is in the same situation at the exact same age. I'm just
telling you what I told him.
coolchic77 says:   4 April 2007   153762  
hey its ok! at least you made kupika nice and better than the usual i
understand you! sometimes i experience what your experiencing right

so good luck in your work, your real life and virtual life!
abc suggests:   4 April 2007   194481  
They were not problems........... they were opportunities to improve
and it worked
CoolBabe123 says:   5 April 2007   339585  
its okay hina dont worry i am going to make a comitee to help youi
out with running teh site welll stop fights, and help needy kupika
members and well make more clubs fro more people and well give advice
dont wiorry kupika is great and well make our own games trust me ill
make a commitee
hina says:   6 April 2007   267957  
thanks to all who commented :D

CoolBabe123: that's very kind of you, but no thanks, you don't need to
make a committee ^^
june whispers:   6 April 2007   279981  

relax ^^
Miki_the_Monkey says:   6 April 2007   991272  
Well, I'm only 11, but I kinda understand how you feel... I mean,
Kupika doesn't need games or that kinda stuff. It's perfect right
now!! As for YOU, don't stress yourself out over this website. I think
it's okay for you to leave it for enough time to relax and think about
your future!!
sodasoda says:   9 April 2007   487455  
calm down deary!  hope u have a great job experience! after all
it's experience you should be seeking for. (and more experience leads
to more money.... duh)

anyway if you need an administrator i would be happy to help :P
‹AFIIQAA! Says heyy.› says:   13 April 2007   336223  
ouh so thats the problem. My friends been complaining to me. I'm
gonna ask her to read this.
momo09 says:   13 April 2007   754678  
I dont know you much i sypathise with you *pats back* (kupika's good
the way it is ^^ )
‹^_^xXx_mel_xXx^_^› says:   13 April 2007   181766  
thats ok lol
PinkChicken says:   14 April 2007   865661  
Ok,  <---my fave smiley. ZOMG!!!
Angel_Puzz says:   18 April 2007   177133  
aww poor hina they probly did not get the message
Angel_Puzz says:   18 April 2007   414564  
yer and games on a penpal site ITS A PENPAL SITE NOT A VURTAIL PET
neoeno suggests:   19 April 2007   315266  
Capitalism sucks.

Games also suck. However, give people restrictions and eventually they
will work past them (in a good way). I tend to find that if you give a
community too much they'll get lazy, but that's just my opinion.

I'd say moderators were a thing to think about though. I'm not saying
I recommend it, but consider whether you want the site to remain in
the state of anarchy it is now (again, not necessarily a bad thing).
The power doesn't need to be much either, just enough to give people a
perception that they _do_ have power. Silencing someone from the
fleetingThoughts for 10 minutes for example.

I'm not meaning to hassle or anything, just a coupl'a ideas.
Cowyeshia says:   21 April 2007   793761  
I'm really sorry you feel this way. I don't really understand how you
feel, but I give you my sympothy. Good luck
Poseidon says:   26 April 2007   327272  
I agree. Presently, I am enjoying my life as a teenager; no fears,
etc. I am not in the "real world" yet so nothing of this entry applies
to me (for now). 

As my English teacher would say, "Work hard when you are young and it
will pay off when you are older". I guess it's too late for the
message now. Just wanted to let  you know, careers in the engineer
field invovles lots of brain activity. Wish you the best of luck in
the future.

-Aaron B.
meema says:   30 April 2007   846912  
i feel a little bit worried about my future....but u have to work and
don't give up i bit you'll be ok don't be afraid that much cuz fear
makes us stop sometimes so don't stop....don't worry about the site
its ok!!.....good luck!
‹MusicDefinesLove› says:   2 May 2007   679598  
I did not know that !!!!!! *hugs*
FaerieClubKim says:   4 May 2007   663433  
yep, college is a harder education then most people think.
Gothpunkrockr says:   4 May 2007   123131  
i did add you to my friends list, becuz, u is the owner, and i wanted
everyone to have the cute lil link to ya!
girl101 says:   6 May 2007   984356  
Thank You for Reading!
Oroborus21 says:   9 May 2007   629374  
Yohannes,  I can completely appreciate what you are dealing with and
your concerns. It is my concern that as Kupika continues to grow that
you will either be overwhemed simply with maintaining it or that the
site will begin to suffer in quality which is something I know you do
not wish. 

Therefore, I wish to make a suggestion to you which would serve as an
"intermediate" aid between how things have been and until the point
when I believe the real possibility could come that you might sell the
site or otherwise take it commercial.

What I suggest is that you set up a Paypal account or a
or some similar type of internet account and allow those of us adults
using the site (and maybe the parents of some of the younger users) to
make "donations" to you and the site.  The amount donated could be as
little as ten dollars and maybe up to $50.

I am sure that even a little bit of money would help you out
personally and also it would allow us to express our appreciation for
your hard work and the site. If enough donations came in regularly it
could relieve some of the stress you are feeling, pay for the
webhosting server costs and your domain registration and so forth and
in general make life easier.

Hina I know you are probably a man who likes to do things on his own
but in this manner there is no shame in accepting some help in this
way. It is a win-win situation for everyone and it is a better
solution in the mean time to other forms of relief or if a company
takes over or worse, if Kupika goes away.

please consider it.

sincerely, Eduardo Leaton Jr, Esq.
hina says:   15 May 2007   935864  
thanks for all your comments and suggestions!
i am thinking of implementing a moderator system, where a mod can ban
a member for a few days.
as for donations... i live in indonesia, so my paypal account cannot
be used to receive money. clickbank? hmm... i will consider... thanks!
chani says:   15 May 2007   917134  
Kupika is my fav. site even it hasen't got games, but i have got a
lot of friends on this site. And im really glad for this site, cuz
friends are really important.
to_cool_to_not_go_to_school says:   20 May 2007   289154  
i love this site and i think its the best there ever was and though
i'm young i understand hina-san what you are going through
Brunette_Babe3 says:   7 June 2007   942984  
makes sense
DUDETMARIAH says:   16 June 2007   643871  
oh I am so very sorry for whatever has bugged you if I did! i didn't
realize your life is so more confusing probably more than any body
babygurl4lyfe says:   16 June 2007   985884  
wow never knew how u felt
Cindy747246 says:   16 June 2007   936339  
i understand, now. thanx for telling us!
‹kaylee<3› says:   17 June 2007   768252  
Hina you rock already for making this site! And like babygurl4lyfe is
right. We never new how you felt. Just know we still all love you!
Angel_baby says:   17 June 2007   649977  
I truley understand that you need to rest. I'm not saying that i'm
not one of those who want games and stuff but I know what it's like to
become so overwhelmed that u just do want to do ANYTHING!! so that's
what i think.
latoya_barlow says:   17 June 2007   133647  
im not tryin to suggest anything but maybe u could add a little Q at
the top of the page whenever the person has new qustions!
lucluc10 says:   17 June 2007   492311  
im only 10, and i understand and respect your work.
Bernie says:   29 June 2007   613219  
If you use Oroborus's idea I would be happy to donate some money.
ChibiRini says:   15 July 2007   224495  
I can understand about the issues with your job because for the past
year my parents have been going through job problems too. I can
totally relate in a way. I am just glad that Kupika is still going no
matter what everyone is going through.
lilalani says:   15 July 2007   916825  
I understand see ur a very good person u saw where u were wrong and u
apologised other poeple would denie it
cutelilmomo says:   14 October 2007   518868  
um can i ask you a question?
 how do you come up with these amazing things!!
Sanyu says:   15 October 2007   592892  
I'd like to take this opportunity to just say Capitalism sucks ass.
I'm poor and jobless and need a foot in the door damnit D: money hogs.
Nicholleyla says:   15 October 2007   196174  
Alright, thank you for telling us Hina-sama. I hope all of that
stress goes away soon. 

By the way, your grammar and punctuation are AMAZING! Most people on
Kupika don't care about it. And yes, I know I sound a bit dorky but I
just had to comment on it.

Thanks for Reading!
‹Skull_And_Crossbones› says:   15 October 2007   894817  
Can I be a moderator? I come on to kupika everyday. :P And your story
is very...uhhh...let me think of a word...I GOT ONE! Informative.
Anyway, I don't plan on leaving kupika, EVUR.
CheerLeader19B says:   15 October 2007   752327  
Aw, hina-san! I don't think you're being rude! I understand that you
probably get, like,
letters a day, so it can be frusrating, lol.
misty says:   15 October 2007   322243  
i have been thinking about some new moderations for kupika XD but
thats ok hi hina-san!!! =p
Shaysta7 says:   16 October 2007   818193  
we asked for games and got
them...I guess thats enough.
Sanyu says:   16 October 2007   964321  
3 month old diary is old
CheerChick1012 says:   16 October 2007   285365  
i dont think you have been rude u probably just have like too many
people bothering you on here and u r tired of it, no biggie
ten_three whispers:   17 October 2007   221125  
many comments you got there my bro... hahahahahaha good job... =D
well i hope the listen.. =D gimana kul? enak ga? waktu itu kok ga bls
Fluffygal says:   2 November 2007   494146  
Good luck with surviving adult life Hina-san!
I'll be cheering you on!
Lilrockin2 says:   17 November 2007   152453  
im addicted to kupika!! i go on it every day, unless im away from a
computer and its imposssible for me to go on. thanks for creating
it!!!! you're very smeeech-y!! (that means cool)
ChadPennington10 says:   19 January 2008   274892  
i like it!!!!!!!!
mya123467809 says:   19 January 2008   719775  
u r soooo poular on kupika
Neko_Kitty says:   19 January 2008   854264  
thats cool i gess idk whats cool and whats not thats so sad!
‹GatorBoots› says:   19 January 2008   816154  
@mya1234567809: Naw duh, he is. He's the creator of Kupika. 
RobinScorpio says:   19 January 2008   383146  
um, hina, how come it says 250 kp under your person?
Alicia_101 says:   11 February 2008   364838  
don't worry hina-san we all r here 4 u and if u r sad u can alwase
come 2 me or an1 4 that matter ^-^
‹Jamssy› says:   11 February 2008   927518  
i totally agree with you..
AmericanIdiot says:   12 February 2008   227817  
Hina, don't worry at all we are all here for you! Don't be sad!
Lyncheh says:   12 February 2008   123355  
THIS WAS POSTED IN APRIL OF LAST YEAR. Jesus, people. Stop commenting
on it already.
Chidori_Chan says:   1 May 2008   341196  
 Lyncheh's right this was still last year.
amethyst21 says:   4 May 2008   396426  
I agree, although, If this was posted last year, it could still be in
his mind...Ok, that made no sense whatsoever, but all i'm trying to
Lyncheh says:   4 May 2008   746863  
I only mind because it keeps coming up in my update box and I miss
the new stuff, kkkkkk. u.u
Chidori_Chan says:   4 May 2008   323831  
I agree again.
‹♥oliviaaaa♥› says:   4 June 2008   638446  
we all forgive u
‹KirstyKILLJOY› says:   5 June 2008   941315  
Anon does not forgive </3

jkjkjk ;;

we love you really.
‹-Swaggnιfιcent khιdd|«› says:   5 June 2008   476984  
I understand everything that you said....
‹♪♥Luvy; a singer♥♫› says :   9 July 2009   585176  
i understand...


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