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Friday, 4 January 2013
10:17:36 PM (GMT)
I am kind of super angry. I kinda want to scream. 

There's this guy that I've liked for 5 years. Since my seventh grade year. 
We have been best friends for 3 years, and we hang out normally once a week.
I know that saying you are in love is completely irrational for high schoolers, but I
think love is what I am feeling.

I think about him all the time. Not in an obsessive way, but I wonder if anything
could be more than just a friendship.
In my religion, you can't date before sixteen, or at least it is advised not to, and
I followed that guideline because that's what I wanted.
He would tell me before that I would always be asked to dances, that I would be asked
on dates, that of course there are guys that like me.
But ever since I turned sixteen, his comments like that have stopped.
He hasn't taken me on a date and he told me he would.

Did he lose the affection he had for me?

He blew off our plans for tonight. We were going to chill at his house and play some
Halo and Minecraft (I know, nerdy, but it's what we do together) to do his homework.
He is the same religion as I am, but he takes it more seriously. He doesn't even do
homework on Sunday.
So he told me after school he had too much homework to do and that he couldn't hang
out with me anymore. We had been planning to hang out for two weeks.
When he told me that, I wanted to cry. I was frustrated and upset.
I didn't take it so well, and we argued, not to fiery, but I did protest.

We normally walk to our cars together, but he blew me off afterwards. Which is fine.
I can deal. But I was already upset, you know?
So I went in my car, and sat there waiting for my little sister, trying not to cry.
He walked out and I did notice. He tapped on my window to talk to me and I calmed
down, and we laughed like normal...
But now I'm sitting at my aunt's watching her kids so she can go out instead of
hanging out with him.

Why is he acting like this?
He's always been really nice to me, and I thought he might have liked me back, but
now I'm not so sure... What can I do to find out how he feels?

‹ᵖᵒᶜᵏʸ› says:   5 January 2013   553721  
Well you probably mentioned this:
But how old is he?
If hes one of those men that are younger then you, or the same age,
hes probably going through one of his phases.

If thats not the case, Then he probably has some problems he can't
tell you about.
Did he give off little signs of liking you or Starting to get strange
reactions to you when you ask a question?
serendipity29 says:   5 January 2013   941710  
I didn't say. He's eighteen. And in answer to the strange reaction
question, yeah, sometimes he does. I am just.... I don't know,
stressing out I guess. 
‹ᵖᵒᶜᵏʸ› says:   5 January 2013   274243  
Oh, hes 18?
Well, like I said but stopped;
If hes having Strange reactions, hes either:
A) Getting Nervous around you.

B) Afraid to say something

C) Zoning out and not paying attention (like most men)
If you feel like something is VERY wrong, You should try to be caution
of him. (Or be careful about what you say) Most men are easily hurt,
and don't show it to look manly.

serendipity29 says:   5 January 2013   299382  
I think he's fine though, like we are able to talk about anything and
everything. He's never hidden anything from me, so I don't think
that's what it is! I don't know.... *FLIPS TABLE*
‹ᵖᵒᶜᵏʸ› says:   5 January 2013   478146  
Well, please flip the table back over, and Ask him straight out
forward (if your ready >A< and ask: "Do you like me, or not?.... I
don't feel like you do, and it kinda hurts"

BUT if you're not ready, try and show a little bit of a sign you like
him every now and then. 
‹ᵖᵒᶜᵏʸ› says:   5 January 2013   110062  
*>A<; )
serendipity29 says:   5 January 2013   300325  
UGh but I flirt with him so much. I'm not sure how much more obvious I
could make it without going up, and upright telling him that I like
him! And it's like... weird. Sometimes I feel like he likes me and
other times I don't.... but I feel uncomfortable going up and asking
how he feels about me. And then what if he doesn't, and I've totally
destroyed our friendship? 
‹Mad_as_the_Hatter› says:   5 January 2013   521313  
Agreed, as close as you two seem to be, talking it over would
probably be the bet route of action. From a guys point of view, and
the timing of everything, i would say he might like you. But I think
saying that he may not know what to think at the moment, is a little
more accurate.
‹ᵖᵒᶜᵏʸ› says:   5 January 2013   727767  
yes. Totally agreed, I would know because i have 3 brothers.
Well, Don't flirt with him as much,
Try every once in a while .
serendipity29 says:   5 January 2013   579931  
Okay... thank you for the advice, as well as 
I'll think about asking him. 
‹ᵖᵒᶜᵏʸ› says:   5 January 2013   397092  
^^ Good luck!

‹CastleOfSmoke› says:   6 January 2013   144458  
Get him out of your mind,be busy and try to involve yourself in going
out,working just get him out of your mind.pretend you are ok and
really you should be ok you shouldnt upset.your problem is that you
EXPECTED him to like you and show it.he probably likes you but shy or
cornfused.you will be ok and i must tell you again to be calm and try
to control your feeling a little.
‹CastleOfSmoke› says :   6 January 2013   667537  


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