Sunday, 4 May 2008
01:15:59 AM (GMT)
I was not one of the popular kids in high school. Being popular meant that you had
to do certain things, act a certain way, or dress in certain clothes that made other
people look at you and think of you as "sexy" or "cool", but you had to keep up that
image and attitude in order to keep pleasing everyone, and ultimately you became a
slave to their wants and desires, a conformist to the id of society.
Popularity really is a relative thing; if all you want are some good friends, and
you've probably heard this a billion times, all you really need to be is yourself.
And I understand that in a time when you are still discovering who you are, coming of
age as they say, it's hard to be something you don't really understand yet. In that
case, if you really are keen on finding out what kind of person you are, then be a
student of your own life.
Go out and have experiences, and learn from them. Keep a diary. Meet lots of
different people. Try to find both sides of every story, and reserve your judgement.
Try different forms of artistic expression. Learn about different cultures and
systems of belief. Delve into your gene pool. Trace your ancestral line. When you
learn to appreciate yourself for who you are, you find that you don't need to rely on
other people to appreciate you. Then you will be able to find that balance between
you and your peers in which you can appreciate each other equally.
I was unpopular because I didn't do what everyone else wanted me to do, because I
chose not to be the kind of person everyone else wanted me to be. I met my friends
through common interests, and we stuck it out through our entire public education. We
had to split up come college, but we still correspond through phone and mail. And
while going to college I met a whole bunch of new friends to add to my circle. You
never forget the really good friends, and they never forget you.