Wednesday, 29 August 2012
08:38:38 AM (GMT)
If I would have told myself this a year ago, I wouldn't have believed it.
All it takes to make your problems go away, or at least make them much more bearable,
is to change how you look at it.
So you've been treated like shit?
You can sit around and cry and feel bad for yourself. You can never trust anyone
again. You can relive the events over and over in your head....
Or you can look at it as an opportunity to grow.
Now you know you can take a lot of abuse, and make it through. That's saying a lot.
It also makes you a little more cautious, maybe it helps you make better choices
about who gets close to you. People have to EARN your trust, and that definitely
isn't a bad thing.
So you don't have a job or any money?
You can think about all the things you can't afford, but that's just going to drive
Think of it as an opportunity to manage your finances better. Think of it as a chance
to really appreciate everything you have, especially the things you didn't notice
It makes you work harder to find a job, and it makes you appreciate putting in the
hours for a little bit of cash.
So you're alone?
Don't dwell on the fact that nobody is around you. Dwell on the fact that you are
there, alive and breathing.
It gives you a chance to get to know yourself.
Find out who you really are, because if you can't be happy on your own, you aren't
going to really be able to make someone else happy.
Take advantage of the time you are given, and make yourself into everything you want
So your parents suck?
Most of them do.
All that means is that you have the opportunity to be the best parent in the world to
Don't make another generation live through the crap that you went through.
The cycle has to end somewhere.
When things aren't going your way, just take a step back and breathe.
It's okay to cry.
It's okay to scream.
It's even okay to punch inanimate objects on occasion. (Try to avoid walls, glass,
and sharp objects
But once the raw emotion has been expunged, just breathe and reflect on it all.
If you didn't have to go through all these things, you would never have to adjust to
You'd be living in your little bubble, where nothing in the world would get to you.
To me, that's not really living.
Look at these events as not brick walls, but minor obstacles.
Once you get past these things, you will be able to enjoy the little bits of
happiness this place has to offer.
and you will APPRECIATE them much, much more.
Close your eyes, relax...
and for a few moments, try to look at things from a different perspective.
It might just change your life.
Last edited: 29 August 2012