Tuesday, 27 October 2009
10:40:14 PM (GMT)
English class made me do it. Again.
Though someone could argue that the question ‘Should we sacrifice our dreams for
others?’ takes on a wide variety of circumstances and that the answer to the
question can never be a definitive ‘yes’ or ‘no’, I’d say that most of the
time we should try taking others in to account when making life altering decisions.
I don’t necessarily think that someone should let others completely influence
that decisions that they make for themselves, especially ones of great importance,
but I do feel that a compromise can always be reached one way or another, and that it
is possible for each side to be equally happy (or at least satisfied) with the
outcome of the situation.
Though I don’t think I would go so far as to say that living your dreams is
selfish, you do have to admit that there is an element of selfishness in the act,
since on is thinking and being considerate of one’s self. Unless no one is opposed
to you following your dreams, by doing so you are in fact doing it at the expense of
For me, the fact that someone else in unhappy with my decision would usually cause
me not to end up making that decision at all. For the majority of people, this is the
case. Before making any decision it is expected that a human being would have a
thought process regarding it; weighing out the pros and cons of the decision’s
result and taking into account how the decision will affect not only their lives, but
the lives of others. The thing about following your dreams regardless of the
circumstance is that the dreamer in question will either have to ignore the fact that
this will negatively affect others, or reject the fact all together. Though some
people manage to cope quite well with this, many would feel uncomfortable and
bothered about it, thus causing them to never attain true happiness.
So, the question can also depend on what kind of a person you are. Pursuing your
dreams can either positively or negatively affect you, and I find that any
non-selfish person will in fact be negatively affected in one way or another by their
decision. It could affect their mental, and if the stress is great enough, even their
Another thing that I find makes following your dreams an act of selfishness is the
fact that not many people are allowed, or allow themselves to follow their dreams,
possibly because of their family relations, culture/race/gender, financial situations
or responsibilities; things that cannot be helped. I find it somewhat unfair that
some people should be able to pursue their dreams while others who are just as
deserving if not more, cannot. Luckily, most of us have all the freedom and
opportunities we need to follow our aspirations and complain and fuss about it when
we can’t, without realizing that we aren’t the only ones, and that some other
people have it much worse.
As I’ve mentioned before, some people cannot follow their dreams because of their
responsibilities. Once someone chooses to ignore these responsibilities on their own
behalf, they must one day or another face the consequence of rejecting them.
Consequence is the main reason why the many people choose not to pursue their dreams;
fear of negative consequence will stop almost anyone from doing it. And even if they
do achieve happiness, it is only for a limited amount of time, because one day or
another they are going to have to own up to what they have done and face consequence.
Sometimes this consequence can come through the form or guilt, and other times it can
There is one thing that I think deserves no toleration whatsoever, and that is
ignorance. I strongly believe that ignorance/ignorant people are not things that
should be ignored; instead of ignoring people who don’t agree with your dreams, do
not run away from them, you must confront them and come to a mutual understanding.
Maybe if people took others into consideration when making important decisions, they
would be able to follow a part of their dream without guilt or consequence. I believe
that many arguments can be solved if the two opposing forces just calmed down for a
moment and discussed with each other exactly what they feel and why they feel it, and
search for ideas that can possibly help them reach an agreement. That way our dreams
do not always have to be sacrificed.
Despite all these opinions, when someone is asking themselves whether they should
sacrifice their dreams or not, I think that the thing they should truly rely on is
the idea or right and wrong. They must clearly think about what they are doing and
decide for themselves if it is the right or wrong thing to do, and then they must
choose whether betraying others to live out that dream is the right or wrong thing to
do, depending on the situation. If they truly think hard enough, I believe they will
find the answer within themselves.