Friday, 10 August 2007
04:23:02 PM (GMT)
People often speak about advice. Giving, receiving, requiring, being-good-at,
whatever. It seems to be the thing friends do for eachother.
But... suspicious. Most problems are very easy to solve, and anyone with half a brain
knows what the solution is. If you have feelings for someone, but don't know if they
like you, then you flirt/ask/whichever. If you have feelings for a friend, you know
that there's no easy solution and probably that you'll let them know anyway.
So advice, for the most part, is pretty redundant. Moreover, I'd say that it's
Ask yourself if you like being told what to do in very personal matters, I'd bet very
few of you do. It's also not too nice to feel like someone doesn't understand your
problem and why their solution doesn't work (very often, since no situation is
exactly the same). So why do people do it?
The reason, overbearingly often, is because people want to feel cared about. They
want their problem, and by extension themselves, to feel valued. Most people,
however, don't know how to do this (and it seems odd to ask for it), so advice is a
good way of feeling valued and cared about.
I don't really have much more to add, just felt like writing [this].
Damned spelling failure... advice is a noun, advise is a verb.
Last edited: 11 August 2007