Why are teenage romances written? To occupy the mind of teenage girls who need that
kind of thing to believe that they will fnd their "soul mate". But is that truly a
good way to go about life? To fill yourself with tales about unrealistic fantasies?
Listen, and listen good: Love does not exist in middle and high school. Romance,
well, that's debatable. And there's plenty of drama. But is love really a part of
it? And let me clear something up: there is no suck thing as "love at first sight"
or falling in love". Love is a choice you make. "Falling in love" is just the simple
urge to learn more about a person, an infatuation that may lead to love.
Maybe.
And no, I'm not writing this because I'm "some teenage brat who's complaining about
being dumped". No, I'm just stating my opinion. In fact, I think dating at my age is
pointless. Unnecesary drama? No thank-you. I get enough from my friends who think
Why are teenage romances written? To occupy the mind of teenage girls who need that
kind of thing to believe that they will fnd their "soul mate". But is that truly a
good way to go about life? To fill yourself with tales about unrealistic fantasies?
Listen, and listen good: Love does not exist in middle and high school. Romance,
well, that's debatable. And there's plenty of drama. But is love really a part of
it? And let me clear something up: there is no suck thing as "love at first sight"
or falling in love". Love is a choice you make. "Falling in love" is just the simple
urge to learn more about a person, an infatuation that may lead to love.
Maybe.
And no, I'm not writing this because I'm "some teenage brat who's complaining about
being dumped". No, I'm just stating my opinion. In fact, I think dating at my age is
pointless. Unnecesary drama? No thank-you. I get enough from my friends who think
they're in love with a guy (one of them thinks that she loves 2 guys, ugh).
Feel free to bite my head off, or flame me. I don't really care. It just shows that
you have never heard of Freedom of Speech.
So, answer these questions if you will:
1. What is "falling in love", and do you believe in it?
2. Do you think you can "fall in love" with someone when you're still a pre-teen or
teen?
I hate the other kids at my school. They think I'm emo. I like black, ok?! And I'm
not goth, either! No offense to goths or emos. I have no problem with you people. I
also hate that some people think emos always cut themselves. It's just stupid. These
kind of people make me want to bang my head on a desk!
I did not make this.
Summary of Points
Edward is jealous of Jacob, to the tune of actively preventing her from having a
relationship with him. Abuse red flag number one.
Edward isolates Bella from her friends, then abandons her. At that time, he tells
her "you aren't good enough," in blatant disregard for how this is going to hurt
her.
In abandoning her, he forbids her best friend - Alice - from seeing her.
"I couldn't live without you." : Edward attempts suicide over Bella, telling her
I did not make this.
Summary of Points
Edward is jealous of Jacob, to the tune of actively preventing her from having a
relationship with him. Abuse red flag number one.
Edward isolates Bella from her friends, then abandons her. At that time, he tells
her "you aren't good enough," in blatant disregard for how this is going to hurt
her.
In abandoning her, he forbids her best friend - Alice - from seeing her.
"I couldn't live without you." : Edward attempts suicide over Bella, telling her
beforehand that he's planning on doing so. Control tactic.
Edward encourages Bella to lie to her father about seeing him, and furthermore
sneaks around Charlie's back in order to see Bella after curfew and before Charlie
knew about the relationship.
Edward frightens Bella unnecessarily with his vampirism but does not take steps
to ensure her safety.
Edward does not allow Bella to make her own decisions or to disagree with him.
In the beginning of New Moon, Edward hides, takes, or destroys all her
possessions that are associated with him.
Edward takes Bella's belongings that are associated with him in an effort to
control her healing process. But Bella is in charge of how she deals with the loss.
Edward watches Bella while she sleeps. Even before Bella is aware that he is
doing so. A violation of privacy.
Common Arguments
Edward didn't mean to hurt her.
But he did hurt her. We can't rationalize abuse, even if it is not consciously
intentional.
Edward is jealous of Jacob because he's a dangerous werewolf - remember
Emily.
And remember that unnamed 'singer' girl that Emmet killed. Jacob is dangerous.
Edward is also dangerous. Double standards are not cool.
Edward doesn't encourage her to lie to Charlie - he asks her to tell Charlie
that they're seeing each other.
He asks he to tell Charlie so he'll have "some small incentive" not to kill her -
that is, so he'll get in trouble if he hurts her. Since Bella has shown a strong
disregard for her own safety, this isn't a compelling argument. Further, his actions
in sneaking around Charlie's back both before and after curfew was instated
demonstrate a real disregard for any sense of openness between Bella and her
father.
Edward scares Bella to make her understand the danger.
No matter what the reason, it isn't right to try and frighten your girlfriend. She
knows he's dangerous and can decide to take that risk for herself.
Edward tries to act in Bella's own interests.
Which he attempts by taking away Bella's independence and free will. Not a good
deal.
Edward's attempted suicide proves he loves her - it's not a control
tactic.
Killing yourself over someone does not prove you love them, it proves that you need
mental help.
Edward committed suicide because he thought Bella was dead. It can't have been
an attempt to control her.
But he told her that he was going to commit suicide beforeheand - and that makes it
a suicide threat, which is characteristic of abusers. Some of them are unstable
enough to go through with it. Plus, even if his suicide is contingent on her death
rather than her absence, it's still imposing on her decisions by making her
re-evaluate the daily risks that she's willing to take.
Edward is a vampire. You can't apply human psychology to him.
Why not? He was born human and has lived in human society for the past hundred
years. Yes, as a vampire he's going to have a different perspective on some things,
but the psychology is essentially the same.
Edward is only human. He makes mistakes.
And, like a human, is responsible for his actions. Making mistakes is understandable
- repeating them heedless to others is abuse.
Why do you care so much anyway?
Because it's indicitive of a pattern in society to idealize unhealthy and abusive
relationships.
You suck.
This is a vampire book. I thought sucking was a good thing.
I was...disappointed. I like fantasy, that's my favorite kind of book, but the
ending for me was just too....happy. I know, that sounds just plain weird, but when
it comes to books with drama, I tend you expect, you know, a little bit of tragedy.
No, I don't count Irina dying as much of a tragedy because we didn't see her very
much. I thought that it was, well, boring in some ways. Not much fighting near the
end, just a bunch of vampires acting like they're in court. BTW, Garrett sounded
like the greatest lawyer ever! I think I'm just gonna keep reading JacobXBella
fanfics. I'm Team Jacob, and even though he's happy, he's not happy WITH BELLA. I
loved them together, and now he might end up as her son-in-law? I personally love
randmonness, but Renesmee kind of just appeared out of nowhere. Though, I have to
admit, Renesmee sounds very cute and her power rocks! Breaking Dawn isn't my
favorite book in the series. I'm sorry, but it just isn't. This'll probably sound
I was...disappointed. I like fantasy, that's my favorite kind of book, but the
ending for me was just too....happy. I know, that sounds just plain weird, but when
it comes to books with drama, I tend you expect, you know, a little bit of tragedy.
No, I don't count Irina dying as much of a tragedy because we didn't see her very
much. I thought that it was, well, boring in some ways. Not much fighting near the
end, just a bunch of vampires acting like they're in court. BTW, Garrett sounded
like the greatest lawyer ever! I think I'm just gonna keep reading JacobXBella
fanfics. I'm Team Jacob, and even though he's happy, he's not happy WITH BELLA. I
loved them together, and now he might end up as her son-in-law? I personally love
randmonness, but Renesmee kind of just appeared out of nowhere. Though, I have to
admit, Renesmee sounds very cute and her power rocks! Breaking Dawn isn't my
favorite book in the series. I'm sorry, but it just isn't. This'll probably sound
even crazier, but New Moon is pretty much my favorite, cuz' that's when the love
trianlge between the three of them formed. When jacob imprinted, I kind of hoped
that(this may sound cruel) Jacob would feel torn between Bella and Renesmee. I'm
just horrible, aren't I? But, it would make the book so interesting in Jake's point
of view. He would be torn between Bella and her daughter! Please don't hate me for
this. I wanted to get this out.
